I have noticed this recurring patterns where folks Professionally and Personally, do not want to take the time to research, and think through a problem. They want their, or any solution to be quickly accepted, adopted and then deployed and to deal with the And then they become angry at everyone when it does not work the way they expected or they come to me to ask why.
I am sooooo freakin tired of having to think things through for folks I have my own problems/demons I am dealing with. I would not call myself heartless. I do feel empathy and compassion for other folks plight. BUT…
My compassion and empathy has limitations. If I cautioned you that the actions you were planning and doing were inconsistent, or ill planned, and you did it anyway, You Own THAT not me. Stop trying to engage me in a discussion. If you didnt listen/value my suggestions to me then, why would you listen to me now?
I don’t have the answers for everything. I have my own problems I am dealing with. If you’re looking to rant and complain about a situation, great. Preface the discussion that way. But do not continue coming to me asking for guidance concerning problems I have already given solutions to. My time is as important as yours. I refuse to enable folks who continue to make bad decisions, and depend on others.
Accountability of your actions is how you define character and resolve. If you are constantly going to others to fix your problems, congrats, YOU ARE THE PROBLEM.